My dearest sweet girl,
I am so thankful for your life. It is a privilege and honor to be your mom. You gave my the title of mother and forever changed my life. When I had you I was able to experience love in a new and unexplainable way. I did not know love like this. It’s a kind of love that expands, grows, reaches to deepest core of one’s heart. The love a mom feels for a child is a love that makes you get on your knees to pray, it’s a kind of love that shows you true sacrifice and it’s a love that will never end, no matter what.
As I see you grow and think about you getting older, I hope and pray that you will have joy, companionship, success, love and much more in life. I also hope one day you get to experience many joys and blessings; and perhaps one of them is motherhood.
As I think of all this things I also hope that one day you find someone to share life with. I pray that you find someone that loves you for how wonderful, loving, passionate, kind, smart, beautiful and generous you are, my dear.
From my personal experience loving someone if not just a feeling but also a choice, an action, an everyday decision, and sometime a true sacrifice. Love is patient, kind, gentle, honest, forgiving, and much more. Love is not perfect and it can be hard but I have learn that it endures through much.
You know life is full of many great and challenging, unexpected things that will come. We make plans and that is good, but remember to keep everything meaningful, simple and flexible because not everything will go our way. With this said, I want to also share a few thoughts and opinions about intimacy. I want to share this because I was not talked to about intimacy and I want you to be aware of what is true and what might not be true.
First I believe sex was created by God as a gift to a men and a women for their union as husband and wife. It may seem old fashioned, but I have strong reasons to believe this. One, having sex is the most intimate action you will experience where you give yourself in body, mind and soul. It’s a gift that once you give it, it cannot be taken back. And if you keep giving this beautiful gift it’s like giving a little bit of you each time. Now, when it is a gift to the same person like a husband, the gift only gets better as you share it. In my opinion, if you give it to different people and they don’t appreciate it, it’s more like losing a little part of you each time. You see, the more I have shared intimacy with your father, the better it has become, because how much our love has grown.
My sweet girl, I also want to share that having sex is not the same as what you might see on television or what a friend might explain to you. I have a responsibility to tell you the truth and I want to be honest with you in this area of life. The first time you have sex it most likely will not feel very good. As time passes and you continue to have sex and start to understand your body, and your partner also learns with you, it will grow in joy, fun, love and pleasure.
Communication will be so important when you are intimate and I honestly believe that if intimacy is shared with the right person, it will bring great joy, love and pleasure for both persons. One more thing that I wish someone would have shared is, when you are married and you love the person and both parties consent AND what you are doing doesn’t hurt anyone physically, then anything is “fair game.” This was a “game changer” for me after many years of marriage because of the way I was raised.
Growing up as a conservative Christian, I was very set on waiting on having sex until marriage. I hope you consider this and I am here to talk more about it. No matter what I will always try my best to be there to listen, support you, help you and guide you.
It has been my experience that when I was young I thought I knew so much but as time has passed and I have lived through many seasons of life, I realize how little I knew. I would encourage you to wait in area of life you might not know how to approach and to seek advice from people who have already walked ahead of you.
I have one more thing to share, and that is the more I have allowed God to guide me, the more surprised I have been on how life plays. His timing and ways are different than my. He created me therefore He knows me better than I know myself and He wants what is best by more than anyone in this world.
I have been blessed with you, and I have been trusted with you, so my hope and desire is to always protect you, guide you, help you and love you the best way that you need. So, if I feel this strongly, imagine how much more the one who created you feels these desires. If you question God’s love and ways, seek Him, question Him and ask Him to show you, to lead you. He will meet you where you are if you seek earnestly.
Finally, always remember that I love you. You are a piece of me, and even though this sounds funny, I feel very closely what you feel and I know you well. And no matter how old you are and how much life has happened I will always love you!!!
Your mamma 💗